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4 things to do if you're concerned about your student

Anonymous — Thu, 19 Sep 2024 15:14:00 +0000

4 things to do if you're concerned about your student Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 09/19/2024 - 09:14

While we all want our Buffs to have a positive college experience, many students may find themselves facing circumstances they weren’t expecting. The stress of college life and major life events like hospitalization, mental health concerns, loss of a loved one and relationship troubles can happen unexpectedly and may throw students off course.

Family members are often able to identify when their student is in distress and may be the first point of contact for advice or support. If you are concerned about your student, here are a few things you can do to support them.

1. Look for signs of distress

The first step in supporting a student who may be struggling is to understand and identify potential signs of distress. Some common signs to be aware of are listed below. Keep in mind that this list is not all-inclusive, and students may not always present themselves in these ways. Trust your instincts.

Behavioral changes

Significant changes in academic performance, poor grades, conduct issues at school

Unusual or increased spending, financial issues

Strange or bizarre behavior indicating loss of contact with reality

Rapid speech or manic behavior

Depressed or lethargic mood or functioning

Verbal abuse like taunting, badgering or intimidation

Physical changes

Significant weight changes, illnesses or injuries

Marked changes in physical appearance like poor grooming or hygiene or sudden changes in weight

Observable signs of injury like facial bruising/cuts or self-harm

Significant illnesses or injuries

Visibly intoxicated or smelling of alcohol or marijuana, increased or unusual substance use

Emotional/personality changes

Your student feels like a “different kid” when they come home

Isolation, major mood swings, bizarre or out of control behavior

Self-disclosure of personal distress like relationship problems, financial difficulties, assault, discrimination or legal difficulties

Unusual or disproportionate emotional response to events

Expression of concern about your student from friends, roommates, instructors or other family members

Safety risk

Verbal, written or implied references to suicide, homicide, assault or self-harm behavior

Unprovoked anger or hostility

Physical violence like shoving, grabbing, assaulting or use of a weapon

Stalking or harassing

Communicating threats or disturbing comments in person or via email, text or phone call

2. Talk to your student about your concerns

Let your student know that you’ve noticed changes and that you’re here to help. Acknowledging their distress, expressing your concerns and offering to explore resources with them can have a positive impact on your relationship and may increase the likelihood that your student will seek support. Here are a few things to keep in mind when approaching your student.

Find a good time to talk
Initiating an important conversation with your student can be challenging. You can set yourself and your student up for success by choosing a quiet space to talk, finding a time that works for both of you, explaining why you want to have this conversation and sharing what you hope will come of it.

Use “I” statements to express your concerns
When talking with your student about your concerns, it’s important to describe what you’ve noticed and let them know that you care about them. Using “I” statements can help you share this information with your student in an effective way. Here are some examples:

“I’ve noticed that you’ve been drinking/smoking more than you used to, and I wanted to check in to see how you’re doing.”

“I’ve noticed that you aren’t spending as much time with your friends, and I wanted to make sure you’re doing okay.”

“I’ve noticed that you’ve lost significant weight since I last saw you, and I am worried about you.”

Ask open-ended questions
Try to avoid yes or no questions that can be easily answered or dismissed. Instead, focus on asking open-ended questions that allow your student to express themselves and provide details that can help you evaluate the situation. For instance, you can use open-ended statements like:

Tell me about how the semester is going for you.

What are some of the things you are currently struggling with?

It seems like things at school may not be going as well as you expected. What do you think might be going on?

As you ask these questions, try to listen to your student’s response and ask clarifying questions if needed. It’s also important to listen, acknowledge and validate your student’s experience without offering judgment or advice, or jumping in to respond.

If your student is showing significant signs of distress, don’t be afraid to ask them about suicide. Contrary to what we may think, talking about suicide directly isn’t going to plant the idea in their head. If they have been thinking about suicide, asking them about it can be a relief and an opportunity for them to talk about it more openly.

When you ask, express your care by saying something like “I’m asking because I care about you. Are you thinking about suicide?” If they aren’t, they’ll let you know. Asking students directly, even if they aren’t thinking about suicide, lets them know that it’s okay to talk about it in the future if things change. If they are thinking about suicide, it’s likely time to help them connect with mental health resources on campus.

Avoid overpromising
When we have difficult or uncomfortable conversations, it can be easy to overpromise how things will turn out or provide general answers to move the conversation along. However, it’s important to avoid saying things like “everything will be alright” and “I know exactly how you feel.”

Instead, try to focus on letting your student know that you appreciate their willingness to talk to you about issues they’re facing. This is also an opportunity for you to reiterate how much you care for them. For instance, you may say something like, “I’m sorry to hear that. I want you to know that I am here for you and want to help you as much as I can.”

3. Make a referral

Student Support & Case Management (SSCM) is available to provide individualized support to CU Boulder students. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

How to refer a student to SSCM
There are three ways to refer a student to SSCM, including:

Filling out the online referral form

Calling SSCM at 303-492-7348

Emailing the department at sscm@colorado.edu

It’s okay to be unsure if your student needs help. The severity of a student’s distress may be unclear, or you may be concerned about your student and not know how to move forward. Even if your student does not need immediate assistance, they still may be experiencing academic or personal issues and could use support.

4. Explore additional resources with your student

Referring your student to SSCM is a great first step, especially if you don’t know what your student may need in terms of support. Here are a few additional resources that are worth exploring with your student to see what they may benefit from the most.

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)
CAPS is the primary mental health service on campus. They provide short-term counseling, community referrals, consultations, workshops, group therapy and more. CAPS is also available to provide insight and direction for family members or loved ones who want to support their student. You can learn more and find frequently asked questions on their Family Information page. Please note, CAPS cannot provide information about whether a student chooses visit their clinic or access services.
*Confidential resource

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)
There may be times when your student wants to speak confidentially or hypothetically about sexual misconduct, intimate partner abuse, stalking, discrimination or harassment. OVA is a free and confidential resource that supports students through traumatic or life-changing events through short-term counseling, advocacy and more.
*Confidential resource

AcademicLiveCare (ALC)
AcademicLiveCare is a free telehealth platform that allows students to schedule medical and mental health appointments virtually. Your student can use this program to see board-certified healthcare professionals from home, school or wherever they may be.

Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC)
The CUCRC provides community, support and connection for students in recovery or seeking recovery from a wide range of behaviors. Their mission is to help develop peer-to-peer connections, support resiliency and contribute to their overall well-being through a welcoming and supportive recovery community.

Student Conduct & Conflict Resolution (SCCR)
SCCR provides resources and support for students who are currently working through conduct issues or need support navigating conflicts with roommates, friends, family, romantic partners and instructors.

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5 ways to support your student when they’re feeling homesick

Anonymous — Mon, 26 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0000

5 ways to support your student when they’re feeling homesick Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 08/26/2024 - 00:00

Starting out at a new school can be difficult, especially if your student is moving away from friends or family.

Here are a few strategies you can use to help your student overcome homesickness this semester.

1. Keep a hopeful outlook

Remind your student that while it may not be obvious, many students feel homesick, even as transfer students. Let them know it’s okay to experience homesickness, especially after they’ve said goodbye to their friends, family, home or routine.

It’s also important to emphasize that homesickness is often temporary. Chances are that whatever they’re feeling will lessen over time as they become more familiar with campus life and the people at CU.

Here are some things students can do to remain positive and hopeful:

Set small, achievable goals, like attending one campus event or talking to someone new each week.
Reflect on all the reasons they chose to attend CU and the opportunities that lie ahead.
Allow them to feel their emotions before encouraging them to let go of those feelings.
Remember homesickness can be a sign that they have loving relationships with others, and that is something to be grateful for.

2. Stay in touch

As your student navigates life on campus and meets new people, it can be helpful for them to stay in touch with their friends and family back home. Even if their friends are attending different colleges or living in other cities, encouraging your student to check in and catch up can help them feel more connected.

If your student is struggling, encourage them to reach out so you can talk through it together. Allowing your student to lean on you for support can remind them that they’re not alone and they have people they can rely on in tough times. However, it’s important to remember that you are not there to solve their problems. Instead, try to actively listen to their experiences, validate their feelings and offer support.

Remind your student that while having a solid support system back home is important, it also shouldn’t impede them from spending time or creating new connections here at CU.

Here are some ways your student can stay connected:

Schedule regular calls or video chats with friends or families.
Exchange letters with one another. After all, who doesn’t like receiving something in the mail?
Stay connected and show what life is like over social media.
Create a group chat to keep everyone in the loop and provide collective support.

3. Establish a routine

Living independently, navigating a new place, taking on more responsibilities and juggling a potentially demanding class schedule may require your student to adjust their normal routine. In fact, creating a routine, no matter how small it may be, can help ease feelings of anxiety and make life more predictable.

Here are some easy ways for students to add routine to their days:

Take the same route to and from classes.
Meet up with friends, classmates or hallmates to eat around the same time.
Plan out time for classes, studying and socializing.
Find a study spot on campus.
Establish a consistent laundry or cleaning schedule.

4. Get out there (even if it's hard)

Making friends as an adult might seem harder than it used to be for many students. It may feel intimidating to be vulnerable and put themselves out there. However, it's important to remind your student that if they’re struggling to make new friends or find ‘their people' on campus, they’re not alone.

Here are a few ways your student can work to put themselves out there:

Avoid relying on one person to ‘have it all.’
Stay open to making different friends for different reasons (e.g., someone who is good to study with may not be the same person who would make a good confidant).
Get together as a group if they’re nervous about hanging out with someone one-on-one.
Become a regular at events or campus activities.
Sit near the same people in their classes and join study groups.
Remind themselves that some students may be struggling to find connections, so they should do their best to be inclusive and invite others to tag along.

5. Connect with resources

If your student is struggling to connect with others, feels lonely or needs some extra help, try connecting them with support resources on campus.

Student events

Each semester, Student Affairs hosts hundreds of events, workshops and other opportunities to get involved. Encourage your student to check out upcoming opportunities to meet other Buffs and have fun on campus.

Transfer Buffs

Your student can connect with resources, events and opportunities to build community with other transfer students on campus.

Beyond Campus Buffs

Does your student commute to CU or live off campus? Encourage them to get involved with the Beyond Campus Buffs Program to meet other students, access the Commuter Lounge and more.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Encourage your student to meet with a trained student to explore ways to make friends on campus, set goals, create routines and make the most of their time at CU Boulder.

Center for Student Involvement

There are a variety of ways to get involved at CU, including student organizations, leadership and volunteer opportunities, events and more.

First-Generation �鶹��Ժ Program

If your student is the first person in your family to attend college or university, encourage them to join our community of first-gen students to socialize, learn about campus resources, find support and more.

Pride Office

The Pride Office supports LGBTQ+ students through community events, social spaces, resources and more.

Residence hall events

Residence halls on campus host events to help students meet their hallmates. Encourage your student to check with their RA to learn about upcoming events.

Starting out at a new school can be difficult, especially if your student is moving away from friends or family. Here are a few strategies you can use to help your student overcome homesickness this semester.

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How to talk to students about substance use

Anonymous — Fri, 09 Aug 2024 17:21:59 +0000

How to talk to students about substance use Anonymous (not verified) Fri, 08/09/2024 - 11:21

College students may be exposed to new situations that they’re unsure how to navigate, including party culture. Whether or not your student chooses to use alcohol or other drugs, talking with them about how substance use impacts their goals and how they can keep themselves and their friends safer can help support their well-being and success.

Here are some tips to help you start the conversation.

1. Start early and continue to stay involved

Having open conversations with your student can positively affect their attitude towards alcohol and substance use. Having these conversations early and continuing to stay engaged can help your student feel prepared in a variety of situations.

College students in particular are at higher risk for harms associated with alcohol and other drugs. Your continued involvement can be a protective measure for your student against these harms. As part of the conversation, be sure to ask your student about the activities they’re getting involved in, the relationships they’re forming with roommates and friends and what their overall experience has been like.

2. Allow room for disagreement

If this is your first time talking with your student about substance use, it’s important to be prepared for the fact that your student may initially be reluctant to engage with you. They may be afraid of getting in trouble or feel as though they’ve heard everything there is to hear about alcohol and other drugs. Stay open to what your student has to say and continue talking about substances. Your conversations will likely build and deepen over time.

3. Listen to understand

Being an open and active listener is an important part of any conversation, including those about substance use. As you’re talking with your student, remember to actively listen, be open to hearing their perspective, avoid debating and affirm their strengths as a person. This approach can help reduce some of the resistance they may initially feel when discussing substance use.

4. Familiarize yourself with policies, laws and resources

There are a lot of policies and laws regarding alcohol and other drugs that can be helpful for students and families to understand.

Drinking age: The state of Colorado and CU prohibit drinking for students under 21. If your student is of age living in a residence hall, they may only possess and consume alcohol within their assigned space with the door closed.

Amnesty Policy: To encourage students to help one another in the event of an alcohol- or drug-related emergency, CU has an Amnesty Policy. This means neither the person who calls for help nor the person who needs help will be subject to formal disciplinary sanctions from the university.

911 Good Samaritan Law: Under Colorado’s 911 Good Samaritan Law, a person is immune from criminal prosecution for an offense when they report, in good faith, an emergency drug or alcohol overdose to a law enforcement officer, the 911 system or a medical provider. This same immunity applies to persons who remain at the scene of the event until a law enforcement officer, or an emergency medical responder arrives, or if the person remains at the facilities of the medical provider until a law enforcement officer, emergency medical responder or medical provider arrives. The immunity described above also extends to the person who suffered the emergency drug or alcohol overdose event.

Smoking policy: CU is also a smoke- and tobacco-free campus. This policy applies to all vape products, marijuana and cigarettes.

Workshops: CU Boulder provides a variety of resources to help students. Health Promotion offers free substance use workshops that allow students to discuss substance use with a peer or professional staff member.

Collegiate Recovery Community: The Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC) provides a space for students who are in recovery or seeking recovery from substances to find community, attend meetings and attend substance-free events.

5. Discuss how drinking affects the body

There is a lot of misinformation about how alcohol can impact the body. You can support your student by providing accurate information about the following effects from alcohol:

Alcohol is absorbed from the stomach into the bloodstream.
At lower blood alcohol concentrations, alcohol can lead students to have a sense of relaxation and well-being in addition to impairments to their thoughts, judgment and coordination.
At higher concentrations, it can lead to feelings of depression, mood swings, unconsciousness and loss of control over basic bodily functions that can be fatal.

Talk with your student to see how familiar they are with this process and help provide additional information if needed.

6. Discuss what to do in an emergency

Whether your student chooses to drink or not, there is a possibility that they will be in a situation where they need to support another student in an emergency. At CU Boulder, we want every student to have the ability to help one another. Here are some skills you can share with your student to help them respond in an emergency situation.

Signs a student should watch for:	How they should respond:
Passed out or unresponsive Slow or no breathing Vomiting while passed out Involuntary peeing or pooping Pale/bluish or cool/clammy skin Pinpoint (small) pupils Making gurgling, wheezing or snoring sounds	Turn the person on their side and put them in the recovery position. Immediately call 911 and wait for help to arrive. Make sure the person is in a safe area to avoid injury. Administer naloxone if available (naloxone will not harm someone, even if they are not overdosing). Never leave a severely intoxicated person alone or with someone who is not a trusted friend.

7. Share your values and experiences

Continue to talk with your student about your family’s values related to alcohol and other drugs. This can include discussions about how substance use may impact their academic success and overall college experience.

When talking about substances and their impacts, your student may ask questions about what it was like when you were in college. Be honest with them about your experience but try to avoid stories that normalize or idolize substance use.

8. Correct misconceptions

Long before they step foot on campus, students may have assumptions or expectations around what the ‘college experience’ looks like. Most of these messages, whether from friends, movies or social media, normalize drinking, partying and hookup culture.

However, according to a 2023 National College Health Assessment survey of CU Boulder students, more than 66% of students reported either not using alcohol or not binge drinking within the past two weeks. Helping your student realize that most students aren’t drinking or using marijuana on a regular basis may help them feel more comfortable about making the decision not to drink. It can also help them realize that there isn’t a standard ‘college experience’ they need to live up to.

9. Understand why students use substances

There are many reasons that factor into why students do or do not use alcohol or other drugs. Talking through potential motivations can help guide your conversations, and it allows you to reinforce your student’s decisions to not use substances or use them in a safer way. It’s also important to understand the misconceptions your student may have about substance use. This can also be a good time to brainstorm other ways your student can have the experiences they want.

Alcohol use

Motivations for using	Motivations for not using
Enhance social interactions Facilitate interactions with a potential romantic or sexual partner Reduce stress Fit in Improve mood Address boredom Peer pressure Experimentation or curiosity Alter perception	Plan to drive Have other things to do Sleep problems Productivity or motivation issues Memory problem Don’t want to spend money Don’t want to lose control Avoid unwanted experiences Legal or conduct penalties, avoid fines Academic impacts Increased risk of sexual assault Physical injury

It’s important to remember that students may have different reasons for using substances, and it may depend on the substance itself. Keep in mind that substances that students use today may be different from the ones you remember from your experiences. For instance, cannabis is far more potent now than it was in the ‘70s and ‘80s.

We hope you’ll find these tips helpful as they are supported by expert research. You can find more information by checking out a free copy of Dr. Rob Turrisi’s Parent Handbook for Talking with College �鶹��Ժ About Alcohol. This resource has been proven to help reduce alcohol-related harms in college students through parental and family conversations.

Resources

Health Promotion	Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC)	Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)	Naloxone
Health Promotion supports students through a number of services, including free harm reduction supplies, party smart activities, free substance use workshops, nicotine cessation resources, recovery ally trainings and more.	The CUCRC provides community and support for students who are in recovery or seeking recovery from a variety of harmful behaviors, including substance use.	CAPS provides a variety of specialized services for students who are interested in addressing substance use issues, including screening appointments, evaluations and therapy.	�鶹��Ժ can learn more about naloxone and how to use it through on-campus resources. All CU students can access free naloxone on campus. Having naloxone on hand can help your student feel more prepared to help a fellow Buff in a potential overdose situation.

Whether or not your student chooses to use alcohol or other drugs, talking with them about how substance use impacts their goals and how they can keep themselves and their friends safer can help support their well-being and success. Here are some tips to help you start the conversation.

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3 reasons why your student should work on campus

Anonymous — Wed, 07 Aug 2024 20:21:10 +0000

3 reasons why your student should work on campus Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 08/07/2024 - 14:21

Working on campus offers many benefits for students. Some jobs allow students to build technical skills and are a great way to explore potential careers. Others may offer some downtime and let students study around their job duties.

If your student is looking for a part-time job, here are a few reasons why they should consider working on campus this year.

1. Enjoy a flexible schedule

One of the best perks of an on-campus job is flexibility. Most student jobs offer flexible scheduling around classes and other commitments, as well as during busy times of the semester (like finals). Many students work between 10 and 15 hours weekly, with 25 hours per week maximum. Academics stay the priority for students who work on campus.

2. Get to know fellow Buffs

The other students your student might work with can quickly become their new friends. Departments like the Rec Center, Environmental Center, Residence Life and Campus Dining Services are some of the largest employers of students. These jobs would allow your student to spend time with fellow Buffs and get to know them.

On-campus jobs also offer students the chance to work more closely with faculty and staff. As supervisors, faculty and staff can become mentors and potentially lead to future internships or research opportunities. Additionally, they can provide letters of recommendation or serve as professional references later.

3. Gain professional experience and skills

Whatever department your student works in, their student job can help them build their resume.

Many students develop foundational skills at on-campus jobs that they can use in professional positions after college. These skills include communication, problem-solving, time management and leadership.

There are also student jobs specific to different industries that can teach your student technical skills. These roles include work in graphic design, event planning, social media, data analytics and research.

Resources

Is your student ready to apply? They can use Handshake to search for on-campus student employment, including hourly and work-study positions. Each CU Boulder student already has a Handshake account, regardless of their major or year.

On-Campus Student Job Fair	Career Services	Work in Student Affairs
Sept. 4 \| 2-4:30 p.m. \| UMC South Terrace Encourage your student to stop by this event on Sept. 4. They can meet with campus employers who are looking to hire students and explore job opportunities.	Career Services is dedicated to helping students gain clarity about their future through accessible and inclusive guidance. No matter where your student is at in their journey, Career Services has the support and resources to help.	More than 2,000 students work in the Division of Student Affairs, with job roles ranging from peer mentoring to event planning to social media content creation and university operations. Student employees directly contribute to the success of our campus community.

On-Campus Student Job Fair

Career Services

Work in Student Affairs

Sept. 4 | 2-4:30 p.m. | UMC South Terrace

Encourage your student to stop by this event on Sept. 4. They can meet with campus employers who are looking to hire students and explore job opportunities.

Career Services is dedicated to helping students gain clarity about their future through accessible and inclusive guidance. No matter where your student is at in their journey, Career Services has the support and resources to help.

More than 2,000 students work in the Division of Student Affairs, with job roles ranging from peer mentoring to event planning to social media content creation and university operations. Student employees directly contribute to the success of our campus community.

If your student is looking for a part-time job, here are a few reasons why they should consider working on campus this year.

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Tips for living with roommates

Anonymous — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Tips for living with roommates Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 07/25/2024 - 00:00

Living with roommates, whether your student is in the residence halls or off campus, can be a great experience. It may also bring new challenges and responsibilities. This might be the first time your student will share a room or live with someone they’ve never met.

While many Buffs get along with their roommates, disagreements can happen. This is normal and working through conflict often leads to growth and stronger relationships. Here are some tips to share with your student to help them create a positive living environment and navigate conflict.

1. Communicate

Encourage your student to get to know their roommate the first few weeks of the semester. They can seek out things they have in common and allow space for differences. Even if your student already knows their roommate well, they should still take time to talk about the upcoming semester and routines. Communication is key to understanding each other’s habits, schedules and preferences.

2. Set ground rules together

As your student gets to know their roommate, this is a great time to establish ground rules to prevent misunderstandings later. Topics they could discuss include:

Guests: Is your student okay with overnight guests? Are there times of the day or evening that they would prefer to not have guests over?
Chores: Who’s responsible for cleaning common areas or taking out the trash, and how often? Will there be a schedule for completing chores?
Shared belongings: What items in your student’s space will be shared (electronics, appliances, supplies, food, etc.)? Are there certain items that your student prefers not to be shared?
Finances: If your student lives off campus and is responsible for rent and utilities, how will those be divided and paid?

Creating a roommate agreement is an easy way for your student to discuss and agree on expectations with their roommate. If your Buff lives on campus, their resident advisor (RA) will work with them during their first week on campus to set one up. If your student lives off campus, they can use this free roommate agreement template to get started.

3. Compromise

During your student’s discussion with their roommate, there might be preferences that could cause conflict or topics that they don't initially agree on. Encourage your student to be open to compromise. For example, if they like to study on Friday afternoons and their roommate likes to invite friends over at the end of the week, could your student study at the library instead of asking for quiet hours during that time? Finding areas of compromise and respecting each other’s preferences can help your student and their roommate both feel more comfortable in their living environment.

4. Respect each other’s space and belongings

Living in the residence halls or apartments can mean tight quarters, but your student and their roommate still have a right to privacy and boundaries. Encourage your student to:

Ask before they borrow items belonging to their roommate, including food, clothes and toiletries.
Share plans with their roommate that might affect them, like if they’ve invited guests over or if they’re going out of town for the weekend.
Respect the ground rules that they've set up together—quiet hours, responsibilities with chores, etc.

5. Address issues quickly and in person

It’s best to address roommate issues quickly before they fester. Encourage your student to discuss any important topics or reminders with their roommate in person, if possible. Bringing up issues through texting, social media or sticky notes might lead to miscommunication or increased frustrations. A simple reminder to “take out the trash” could become something more than we intended.

Here are a few other tips to share with your student when it comes to addressing issues:

Your student should give themselves time to think through how they can express their needs before approaching their roommate.
Using “I” statements to describe how the situation makes them feel is a helpful way to start. For example, “I feel frustrated when guests eat my snacks because it’s hard for me to make it to the grocery store.”
Respect goes both ways: they should listen for understanding and ask follow-up questions during the conversation.

If your student is nervous about talking with their roommate, suggest that they connect with their RA or Conflict Resolution to help mediate the conversation. Remind them that conflict can be a good thing. Even though it may seem daunting, talking it through can lead to a healthier relationship with their roommate.

6. Find support with campus resources

�鶹��Ժ have access to a variety of resources to help resolve roommate conflict. If your student is ever concerned about their roommate, they can reach out to Student Support and Case Management or Student Conduct and Conflict Resolution for guidance.

Resident advisors (RAs)

�鶹��Ժ living on campus can reach out to their RA for more support. RAs are a great resource to help mediate conversations and find common ground. Be sure to talk with your roommate beforehand and schedule a time with your RA to discuss potential or unresolved issues.

Residence Life

Residence Life helps students who live on campus build community, engage in leadership opportunities and make the most of their stay in the residence halls. They offer a variety of events, tutoring services, employment opportunities and more.

Conflict Resolution

All students can visit Conflict Resolution, regardless of whether you live on or off campus. They can help you navigate conflicts between roommates, significant others, professors, classmates, etc. They also offer free workshops, mediation and coaching sessions to help you improve your conflict management and resolution skills.

Off-Campus Housing & Neighborhood Relations (OCHNR)

OCHNR is here to help students with all aspects of living off campus, from searching for an apartment and roommate, understanding Boulder housing options and providing free lease reviews with our staff attorney, navigating roommate disagreements, understanding Boulder ordinances and advocating for tenant rights.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer wellness coaches provide peer-to-peer support and are available to meet with students living on or off campus. They can help you navigate concerns related to roommates, relationships, stress, finances and more. Peer wellness coaches can also help you set goals, connect with other resources and create self-care plans.

Center for Inclusion and Social Change (CISC)

CISC works with LGBTQ+ students living on and off campus. They can provide information on gender-inclusive residence hall programs, gender-neutral facilities and more. Their office can also help students find inclusive housing and roommates who will be welcoming and supportive.

Disability Services

Disability Services works with University Housing to provide reasonable on-campus housing and dining accommodations for students with disabilities. �鶹��Ժ interested in obtaining housing or dining accommodations will need to register with Disability Services and provide documentation before they can submit a new accommodations request.

Student Legal Services (SLS)

SLS helps students resolve or minimize their legal situations so you can focus on school. Consultations about landlord/tenant matters are free. Representation for other legal issues is available for a fraction of the cost of a private attorney to all CU Boulder students paying student activity fees.

Living with roommates, whether your student is in the residence halls or off campus, can be a great experience. It may also bring new challenges and responsibilities. Here are some tips to share with your student to help them create a positive living environment and navigate conflict.

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Moving tips to share with your student

Anonymous — Tue, 02 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Moving tips to share with your student Anonymous (not verified) Tue, 07/02/2024 - 00:00

Is your student moving into a new home or apartment off campus soon? Here are tips for a successful move from Off-Campus Housing & Neighborhood Relations (OCHNR) and Student Legal Services (SLS).

Complete a lease review

Leases are complicated legal documents that can be difficult to navigate. �鶹��Ժ need to read their lease agreement to understand their responsibilities and rights as a tenant.

�鶹��Ժ can sign up for a free lease review with OCHNR’s staff attorney, who can help them understand their lease and take note of anything they may have missed. SLS also provides free lease reviews. SLS can be reached by visiting UMC 311 or calling 303-492-6813.

Understand check-in procedures

Your student should be aware of check-in procedures, which should be in their lease, or they can ask their landlord. Some landlords may have documents due by a specific date or need proof that the renter set up the utilities. �鶹��Ժ should complete tasks by their landlord’s deadlines.

Fill out a condition sheet

When your student moves into their new residence, encourage them to fill out a condition sheet. This documentation can help them get their security deposit back when it’s time to move out. Their landlord may provide this form, but if not, your student can use this check-in/check-out sheet. Have your student complete the form and take photos to document the residence's condition, including any preexisting damage.

Set up utilities

Your student can check with their landlord and review their lease to see what utilities they are responsible for, including electricity, water, trash, cable or internet. Some of these utilities may need to be in the student’s name while they live at the property. If they plan on living with roommates, they will need to decide who will pay for which utilities and how to divide the costs.

Consider purchasing renters insurance

Renters insurance helps protect your student’s belongings if the property is damaged. It can be as low as $10 per month and help save money in the long run.

If your student purchases renters insurance, encourage them to take a quick video of their residence after moving in with all closets, drawers, cabinets, etc., open. This way, they will have documentation ready if they need to file a claim later.

Finalize a roommate agreement

By completing a roommate agreement, your student can avoid several common disputes. They can use the sample roommate agreement form, which all roommates should work together to fill out and sign. It covers things like quiet times, pets, parties and overnight guests.

Know city ordinances

�鶹��Ժ can avoid tickets and fines by knowing Boulder’s city ordinances. For example, students can be ticketed for unreasonable noise at any time of day under Boulder’s noise ordinance. �鶹��Ժ may also want to review city ordinances with their roommates before signing a roommate agreement, as they can receive a fine for the actions of their roommates or guests.

Meet the neighbors

Encourage your student to introduce themselves to their new neighbors and build goodwill in their community. �鶹��Ժ can download and fill out these contact cards to share with their neighbors or stop by the OCHNR office in UMC 313 to pick up hard copies.

Register parties

�鶹��Ժ may avoid an expensive ticket by registering their party with OCHNR. They can register their party even if it’s just a couple of friends to be safe. Once they’ve registered, the police will call them with a warning if they receive a noise complaint. Then, they will have 20 minutes to shut things down. Regardless of party registration, they are still responsible for obeying city laws. �鶹��Ժ must take an in-person orientation before using the party registration program. They can visit UMC 313 or email OCHNR to learn more.

Move-out reminders and tips

Before your student moves out of their current residence and into their new home, share these reminders with them.

Your student should properly dispose of any items they are getting rid of. Large items will not be picked up with regular trash, and abandoning those items can result in up to $1,000 in fines.
It is illegal to dispose of electronics in a landfill in Colorado. Electronics will not be taken away with regular trash. Abandoning electronics at a property may result in fines and could require payment from the landlord or neighbors to move.
Your student can donate unwanted items such as clothing, furniture, small electronics and household items.
Encourage your student to ask their landlord what the cleaning expectations are for the rental. Some require a deep clean, while others may only need your student to sweep the floors.
Payment of interest on security deposits is a legal requirement for all properties in the city of Boulder. If your student needs help with a security deposit dispute, they can contact Student Legal Services.

Is your student moving into a new home or apartment off campus soon? Here are tips for a successful move from Off-Campus Housing & Neighborhood Relations (OCHNR) and Student Legal Services (SLS).

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Concerned about your student? Here’s how to help

Anonymous — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 15:40:29 +0000

Concerned about your student? Here’s how to help Anonymous (not verified) Tue, 04/30/2024 - 09:40

�鶹��Ժ may face various challenges during their academic journey, including mental health issues, hospitalization, family emergencies or financial concerns. Each of these challenges can be unexpected and may negatively impact their academic success.

If you notice that your student is acting differently when they come home for break or has been struggling lately, know that you can play a part in getting them support. Here’s how.

Learn to recognize signs of distress

If you think your student needs help, start by checking if they are showing signs of distress. These can be academic, physical, psychological or safety risk concerns. Some common signs to be aware of are below.

Academic

Sudden decline in quality of work and grades
Disturbing content in writing or presentations
Classroom disruptions
Consistently seeking personal rather than professional advice
Multiple requests for extensions or special considerations (a change from prior functioning)
Academic assignments dominated by themes of extreme hopelessness, helplessness, isolation, rage, despair, violence or self-harm

Physical

Marked changes in physical appearance like poor grooming or hygiene or sudden changes in weight
Strange or bizarre behavior indicating loss of contact with reality
Visibly intoxicated or smelling of alcohol or marijuana
Rapid speech or manic behavior
Depressed or lethargic mood or functioning
Observable signs of injury like facial bruising or cuts

Psychological

Self-disclosure of personal distress like family problems, financial difficulties, assault, discrimination or legal difficulties
Unusual or disproportionate emotional response to events
Excessive tearfulness, panic reactions
Verbal abuse like taunting, badgering or intimidation
Expression of concern about the student by peers

Safety Risk

Verbal, written or implied references to suicide, homicide, assault or self-harm behavior
Unprovoked anger or hostility
Physical violence like shoving, grabbing, assaulting or use of a weapon
Stalking or harassing
Communicating threats or disturbing comments in person or via email, text or phone call

Initiate a compassionate conversation

When noticing changes in your student or sensing they may be struggling, it's normal to feel anxious about addressing your concerns with them. You may be the first to spot those changes. It’s important to take the time to talk with your student, which may increase the chances of them getting help.

Initiate the dialogue privately to let them know you’re worried and genuinely care about how they’re doing. Take your time to listen to what they have to say. Student Conduct & Conflict Resolution provides additional resources for healthy dialogue. Visit their webpage for more tips and support.

Refer them to Student Support & Case Management

If your student needs additional support, showing clear signs of distress or you are feeling uneasy after an interaction with them, refer them to Student Support & Case Management (SSCM).

Anyone can refer a student to SSCM. There are three ways to do so:

Fill out the online referral form.
Call SSCM at 303-492-7348.
Email the department at sscm@colorado.edu.

SSCM is available to provide individualized support to students. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

SSCM can even help students with financial challenges after unexpected situations such as recovering from physical or mental health emergencies or traveling to support their loved ones in need.

If you are unsure whether to refer your student, you can contact SSCM for guidance. Some of the more common reasons to refer a student to SSCM include, but are not limited to:

Concern for a student’s mental health
Hospitalization (physical or mental health)
Suicidal ideation
Harm to self or others
Loss of a loved one
Family emergency
Food or housing insecurity (we work in partnership with the Basic Needs Center)
Financial concerns
Threatening behavior

Know that SSCM is a non-confidential service. This means if you disclose that your student or someone else has been impacted by sexual misconduct, protected-class discrimination or harassment, intimate partner violence, stalking or related retaliation, SSCM is required to share that information to the Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC) for outreach regarding support and reporting options.

You are not required to respond to OIEC. If your student needs support, OIEC provides a list of resources, including confidential assistance. If you have questions before you want to submit this type of information, please contact the confidential Office of Victim Assistance (OVA).

Additional resources

In addition to SSCM, CU Boulder provides a wide range of campus resources for students facing challenges.

*Confidential resource

AcademicLiveCare (ALC)
AcademicLiveCare is a free telehealth platform that allows students to schedule medical and mental health appointments virtually. �鶹��Ժ can use this program to see board-certified healthcare professionals from home, campus or anywhere they go. All they need is a smartphone, computer, tablet or other mobile device.

Basic Needs Center (BNC)
The Basic Needs Center is a campus care collective for students seeking assistance accessing essential food and housing and resources. Plus, it provides support in emergencies. The center also offers education on how to navigate local and national food and emergency housing resources.

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Know before you go: Commencement 2024

Anonymous — Thu, 25 Apr 2024 19:55:36 +0000

Know before you go: Commencement 2024 Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 04/25/2024 - 13:55

Soon, the class of 2024 will celebrate the end of their academic journey at CU Boulder. We’re excited to welcome family members and friends to participate in this significant moment for our Buffs. Here are some things to know and final reminders for attending the Commencement Ceremony on May 9.

Arrive early

No tickets are required for the ceremony, so early arrival guarantees you the best seating. The stadium gates open at 7 a.m., and we recommend that you are in your seat by 8:15 a.m. to watch the student processional enter the stadium. Learn more about seating in Folsom Field.

Review parking and transportation details

Arriving early also allows you plenty of time to find parking and get to the stadium. Visitors can expect heavy traffic while traveling to Boulder, in the city and around campus.

All campus parking lots will be open for public parking. Visitors can park on campus for no charge on the days of commencement and recognition ceremonies, including the pay-to-park lots. Free Buff Bus service will be available on the day of Commencement to shuttle families and guests to and from campus parking lots and Folsom Field.

Learn more about parking and transportation for Commencement, including ADA accessibility parking, accessible drop-off areas and more. Easily find your way around during Commencement with our interactive Campus Map.

Know what to bring (and not bring)

A clear bag: Folsom Field has a clear bag policy that will be enforced for Commencement. Bags that are clear plastic, vinyl or PVC and do not exceed 12” x 6” x 12” will be allowed.
Weather-appropriate attire: Colorado weather in May can be unpredictable. No matter the weather, Commencement will happen at Folsom Field. All guests are encouraged to pay attention to the weather forecast and dress accordingly.
An empty water bottle: You may bring an empty, non-disposable plastic water bottle to fill in the stadium if it is 51 ounces or smaller.

Umbrellas, balloons, professional-grade video and camera equipment, artificial noisemakers and other items are not permitted. Review Folsom Field’s prohibited items list.

Make a plan with your student in advance

A large crowd will exit the stadium after the ceremony and cell phone coverage can be unpredictable. Decide in advance where you will meet your graduate to avoid confusion. As you make post-ceremony plans, leave time to find your graduate, take photos and navigate to your student’s recognition ceremony if it is being held the same day.

Get last-minute updates

Check these resources for information and last-minute updates, such as weather advisories:

CU Boulder’s social media channels (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook)
CU Boulder Alerts: Families and guests can opt into CU Boulder Alerts messaging by texting “CUGRAD” to 67283. Guest subscribers will automatically be unsubscribed after commencement week.
Commencement page
Recognition ceremonies page

Share your experience

We want to celebrate your student with you! Add #ForeverBuffs wherever you post on social media for the chance to be featured on the video boards at Folsom Field and on the Commencement livestream.

Here are some things to know and final reminders for attending the Commencement Ceremony on May 9.

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How your student can avoid Honor Code violations

Anonymous — Thu, 25 Apr 2024 19:14:59 +0000

How your student can avoid Honor Code violations Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 04/25/2024 - 13:14

�鶹��Ժ can sometimes make mistakes when things are hectic, like during finals week. These mistakes could be a true accident or an intentional choice to cut corners. Whatever the intentions, actions that violate the Honor Code have consequences that could seriously impact your student’s time at CU.

With finals around the corner, here are the most common Honor Code violations and tips to help your student avoid them.

Cheating

Cheating includes:

�鶹��Ժ using prohibited notes or study aids, including online resources like Chegg, when not permitted.
�鶹��Ժ collaborating on coursework or tests unless expressly permitted by faculty, including using shared group notes to complete exams.
�鶹��Ժ allowing someone else to complete assignments or exams and turning them in as their own.
�鶹��Ժ copying someone else’s coursework.
�鶹��Ժ failing to abide by specific written course instructions.
�鶹��Ժ using electronic devices or online sources when not expressly permitted.

Your student can take these steps to avoid cheating:

Read their syllabus. They can ask their professor if they have questions about what is allowed.
Pay special attention to any collaboration policies.
Know the expectations of their coursework.
Consider things like:
- Can they use online sources?
- Can they use course material, like textbooks or lecture notes in Canvas?
- Can they use their own notes?
If your student is taking an online or hybrid course, they should know when they can and cannot use outside resources. If an exam is open-note, that does not mean it is open-internet. They can ask their professor if they are unsure what they can use.
Put their phone away and close all other tabs while they are engaged in coursework unless explicitly permitted. Don’t look at other websites, their phone or other technology while taking exams.
Ask their professor or TA for help if they're confused or stuck.

Plagiarism

When a student submits someone else’s work or ideas as their own or uses paper writing services and technology, such as essay bots or artificial intelligence, whether paid or unpaid, it is plagiarism.

Plagiarism also includes failing to cite sources correctly. The important thing for your student to remember to avoid plagiarism is to give credit to the source they use. Academic resources like the Writing Center and University Libraries can help students learn to avoid plagiarism. With these resources, they can:

Learn how to properly cite and paraphrase to avoid plagiarism.
Learn how to use someone else’s ideas to support their opinion.
Recognize when to use someone else’s ideas and when to use only their own ideas.

Your student can take these steps to avoid plagiarism:

Cite their sources as they go, including in-text citations and works cited, references or bibliography.
Start early so they have ample time to cite, proofread and edit.
Do not copy and paste material into their paper, even if they intend to go back and delete it later.
Ask their professor if and how they can use artificial intelligence in their class.

Aiding academic dishonesty

Your student may want to help their friends if they are feeling overwhelmed. However, helping another student gain an unfair academic advantage can lead to an Honor Code referral for your student.

Your student can take these steps to avoid aiding academic dishonesty:

Do not share their work with others from when they took the class. This includes essays, spreadsheets, exams or course notes.
If their final exam is not in person, they can schedule a room on campus or take exams alone and in a quiet space.
Remind their friends to use their faculty’s office hours and other academic resources.
Close and lock their computer when they step away from it.

Other tips

When stress is high, your student may be more likely to make a mistake that violates the Honor Code inadvertently. That’s why being prepared and managing their time is critical to their success.

Your student can practice good study habits by setting up consistent study sessions to review class material and eliminate distractions. They can start early on assignments, papers and studying. Then, they will have more time to ask questions if needed.

Finally, your student can use campus resources if they need help! They can talk to their teaching assistants, connect with the Writing Center and check out other academic support and resources. Your student’s academic department may also have more support options specific to their major.

Learn more about the Honor Code.

Academic Misconduct

Academic Misconduct includes any act in which a student gains or provides, or attempts to gain or provide, an unfair academic advantage over other students.

The Honor Code was designed to uphold CU Boulder's standards of academic integrity and intellectual honesty. It provides quick resolution of reports of student academic misconduct. All CU Boulder students are subject to the Honor Code for academic matters. �鶹��Ժ who violate the code may be subject to discipline.

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3 tips to help your student if they’re feeling burned out

Anonymous — Thu, 25 Apr 2024 15:49:58 +0000

3 tips to help your student if they’re feeling burned out Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 04/25/2024 - 09:49

The academic year is almost over, and that means that many students may be feeling exhausted, overwhelmed or simply burned out. Finishing coursework, taking exams, maintaining relationships, finding a job or making summer plans can all impact your student’s well-being.

Family members can play an important role during this time by recognizing the signs of burnout and providing support. If you think your student may be feeling burned out, here are some tips that can help.

What is burnout?

Burnout can happen when we feel overly stressed, overwhelmed, overloaded or anxious about our responsibilities.

Signs that your student may be experiencing burnout include:

Feeling mentally, physically or emotionally depleted or exhausted
Avoiding tasks or responsibilities
Developing cynicism or negative feelings towards their classes, instructors or assignments
Losing motivation to do tasks or assignments
Difficulty concentrating
Missing deadlines
Impacts to their academic performance, grades or engagement
Disconnecting from others, feeling isolated or lonely
Difficulty sleeping, changes in eating patterns or an increase in substance use
Feelings of hopelessness, helplessness or irritability
Feeling chronically stressed, anxious or overwhelmed
Feeling dissatisfaction or a lack of meaning and purpose

Keep in mind that burnout can show up differently for different people, and your student may not experience every symptom listed. However, it’s still important to watch for any of these symptoms and take note of which ones may be affecting your student. This can make it easier for you to know when your student isn’t doing well or may need to seek support.

How can you support your student?

When students experience burnout, it can be hard to overcome. Here are some ways to proactively manage burnout before it happens and ways to manage it in the moment.

1. Validate their feelings

If your student is feeling stressed or overwhelmed, validate their feelings by:

Listening to what they have to say without judgment.
Asking your student if they would like your help brainstorming solutions.
Letting your student know that you believe in their abilities.
Avoiding minimizing their feelings or concerns or telling them to “tough it out.”
Offering words of encouragement, empathy and understanding.
Providing a listening ear and shoulder to lean on.

2. Remind your student of their goals

If your student is feeling burned out, they may lose sight of their goals or question what they’re really working toward. Take some time to talk with your student about how their efforts align with their longer-term goals. This can help them find the motivation to stay on track (or let go if needed).

Here are some questions you can ask your student:

What do you value most? (e.g., work ethic, learning, helping others, personal peace, etc.)
How can you reflect these values in what you’re doing?
Do you know where to find support if you need it?
How are your current efforts going to help you accomplish your future goals?
What things are within your control (and what is not)?
What is one thing you can do right now to feel a little better?
Are there things you are willing to let go of?

3. Encourage balance

While it may seem counterintuitive, it can be helpful for students to take breaks from their responsibilities or coursework. In fact, stepping away can help them retain more information, feel more motivated and give them energy to finish the tasks they’ve been dreading.

Here are some things you can encourage your student to do to practice balance and take care of their own well-being.

Get a restful night of sleep by reducing their caffeine, avoiding all-nighters or creating a bedtime routine that will help them relax.
Make time for their hobbies outside of school, even if it’s only for 30 minutes.
Stay connected with their friends and encourage their friends to take breaks, too.
Take some time to visualize what success looks like for them short-term and long-term.
Set boundaries around their time and energy.
Avoid making additional commitments that may lead to additional stress or take time away from their most important tasks or activities they enjoy.
Think about if a task or assignment will matter in a week, a month or a year from now.
Prioritize their tasks and make a schedule that feels reasonable.

Resources

If your student is feeling stressed, anxious, overwhelmed or they don’t know what to do, campus resources are here to help.

Let’s Talk
�鶹��Ժ can drop in for a free, informal session with a Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provider to discuss a variety concerns, including burnout, academic concerns, stress, anxiety and more.

Workshops
CAPS provides weekly workshops that can help students develop healthy coping skills related to stress, anxiety and other painful or distressing emotions. All workshops are covered by the mental health fee.

Peer Wellness Coaching
Peer Wellness Coaching is a free service available to students to help them set and achieve wellness goals. Peer wellness coaches are familiar with a variety of topics, including stress, relationships, academics, self-care, sleep, finances and more.

Screening appointments
Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) offers free screening appointments to help connect students with resources and support services. Screenings are available by appointment and during drop-in hours on a first-come, first-served basis.

AcademicLiveCare
AcademicLiveCare provides access to free online counseling and psychiatry appointments. �鶹��Ժ can access services for free, regardless of their health insurance plan or coverage.

*This program does not provide emergency or crisis services.

Crisis Support
If your student is experiencing a mental health crisis, they can get 24/7 support by calling 303-492-2277. This line is operated by a team of crisis triage counselors that can help students stay safe and connect with immediate support resources.

Family members can play an important role by recognizing the signs of burnout and providing support. If you think your student may be feeling burned out, here are some tips that can help.

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